Sangria, 38 - Johannesburg

This is in the hopes that my encountering a genuinely nice guy does not have the same likelihood as my running into a leprechaun. So here goes:

I'm equally at home with street vendor dining and pub karaoki as I am with gallery openings and theatre matinees. I believe in balancing out cerebral and sensory persuits, and being open to new experiences. Be that as simple as diving into a book, movie or food you'd never choose on your own, or as challenging as questioning a deep-seated prejudice or conquering a phobia. I love the unconventional, chivalry and attentiveness. I loathe bigotry, non-transparancy, and having to repeat myself unnecessarily. I only have time for progressive thinkers, liberals and herd-shunners. I like my opinion to matter but I'd rather not make all the decisions on a date. How 'bout neither of us take ourselves too seriously, we both steer clear of predictable "resume date talk" and just have a relaxed conversation instead and see where it goes? No booty calls please. No illicit affairs. No live-in children or dependants. I'm keen on a real date slash introductory social encounter that hopefully leads to some kind of long- term relationship. Or not. Either way, it'd be nice to start from a place of honesty, with realistic expectations held by both parties. That said, if ya aint legit ya better quit.

A guy (34 - 60)

I guess I mostly covered this in the "about me" section. The reason being that I'm against double standards. If I expect certain attitudes and behaviours from you, then I need to be willing to uphold them myself. That said, I do think the best relationships work because each partner has their own dileanated role to play that the two agree on together. Personally, I wouldn't be happy with a partner who assumed, without discussion, that my role as woman should be homemaker and caretaker. This isn't due to any feminist or political reasons. Quite frankly, that's just not where my strengths or interests lie. I'm an excellent delegator, though. I do swoon at the thought of being at the receiving end of old-fashioned male chivalry. At the heart of that is feeling special, protected, and confident that you have someone in your corner who'll always take your side. You don't have to be female to want those things. Ideal situation: we be that for each other.